**And continuing from what originally started as a footnote on the last post Conversing With The Moon:
I would like to note publicly that I do not judge others who choose to “sleep around”. I do not necessarily see doing that as “bad” or “wrong”, only very limiting. I too, know what it is when focused on at my height of 5’9″, to be taken for a wild ride around the dance floor by a man, who at 6’4″, could make some aammaazzing moves with the Greek statue of a specimen that he physically inhabited. But what happens when one opens up to speak with what can be seen then as the Adonis or Aphrodite structure of a human mouth? Who and what is it that is actually doing the speaking as one moves at that height on that dance floor? Does the look and shape of the mouth itself actually have anything to do with giving rise to the words spoken?!
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For me, the acid test of true and expanding human intimacy is not ever about who one can sleep with (biologically speaking there are many layers of attraction… see comments section below for an interesting documentary about the science of this). The fact is that I can walk into almost any bar in the world and walk out having found a man who most likely would have sex with me. For me, however, the real deeper meaning of the human relationship has always been about finding one who can speak with me… communicating from the deeper, authentic inner understanding of who and what they are. In my experience, this has been FAR rarer… and although is not precluded from being found at a bar, is that what most other people enter places like that with the intention and hope of finding? And so the joke goes: Two turtles walk into a bar and… (there is some inner and outer shell laugh floating somewhere close by) lol.
The highest and most precious expression of physical of intimacy, for me as a human being, is then not who I can sleep with, but who I can authentically speak with.
The physical human body eventually goes back to the worms (well at this level of understanding it does). Because of this, for me, it is the part that communicates using the body that is worth focusing the most on. You can touch with your hand, OR you can touch with the energy that is giving life to that hand using it as a tool for it’s expression. In my experience, once you touch and have been touched from the depths of that inner connection place, just sleeping together after the ability to share any old handshake will never do again. 🙂
I was raised in a tradition that said that having sex was a sacred act only to be done within the bonds of the deepest love (they would also have said marriage). Why was this??? It was not only about the potential for creation of new life, but also creating a place for experiencing parts of the deepest sharing one can do with another human being. The ring of truth behind that way of being was so strong for me, that at that time, I actually married my first husband before even having ever slept with him! <~~~ Space left there for the moment of pause this revelation usually causes most people. 🙂 It is a space in the conversation which usually has an accompanying look from the other person that asks just what century or Jane Austin novel were you living from there, M?! -lol- For me this is not about some judgement of “sin” with it’s accompanying right or wrong, nor is about denial or repression related to sex and sexuality. I do not kiss and tell in public, but in my life when total freedom is found within, it can then be found outside. In a connection of pure love rooted first past the physical, this has resulted in the fact that there are now some discrete corners and coat closets out there on this planet with fun tales to tell if their walls could talk. 😉
Using this way of valuing the world and what I can find to experience in it, the real conversation for me has become about the evolution of human beings from within. Saving of our planet has become about energy connecting with energy using the human body and its movement and creation in the world around it as the tools to express the connection.
If one has shared themselves physically in a casual or non-conscious way before, or if one has had what can be the overwhelming challenge of physical abuse of any form, within this evolution of understanding, these experiences can be transformed. Anytime we physically share with anyone else from an unconscious state, whether it is our own or is forced on us by theirs, we have the opportunity going into our future to change the energetic expression behind any physical act. ANYTIME we learn to touch and share from what I would call (at this level) our inner energy of being unconditional love, it has the power to heal, gifting insight and understanding. Touching and being touched from this place of awareness has the power to make one whole again and again and again. The body can be forcibly touched against our will from the place of pain, but that is all. No one and no thing can ever violate the truth of what you are inside the form you use to live and move in the world from. You need never suffer again once you understand you are untouched in that way. You are empowered to transform any experience from the deeper truth of any event. Our purity is inviolable.
It is not possible to ever create or pass on physical trauma in the human body when one is touching or remembering from the place of the energy that is creating the hand that is doing the touching and remembering in the first place… (this is M’s Mentat sentence inspired by Dune). Those who have lived through physical attacks or who have repeatedly shared their body without this awareness or deep love being present by their own choice, are uniquely in a position to understand this dynamic in a profound way. Because they have had the challenging experience of it’s absence, once they grok* this, I have found these people can become (just by their touch in truth!) some of the most powerful and amazing healers on this planet. It is through their awareness and their touch and in the living of their lives that the inner and outer expression of experience is given massive amounts of clarity. This is not in spite of, but because they have lived with so intimately experiencing the difference!
Gracious… my capacity to go off an tangents is epic!!!
Getting back to the original flow of thoughts however.. later, after I began questioning the truth of the actual whys behind the deeper wisdom of not sleeping around (past the limitations and external layers of the constructs of any religious dogma), this is when I looked to science –neurology, physiology, and biology as a whole. From there I went past the observable physical into the micro levels… including quantum physics and it’s language of mathematics. And to be kissed by one who is doing so using the awareness of the energy that is moving the lips, can send ones head actually spinning and spilling!
…So on to focusing on vortex and torsion field contemplations I went. I looked at and studied research in all of these areas and found the beginnings of answers to the whys that have led to more questions! However, for me it has taken the truth of this wisdom of not sleeping around out of the realm of limitation and control or religious woo woo voodoo and has placed it squarely in the lap of the natural and organic energetic designs that we may be. For me it is like discovering the codes creating the hardware at the root operation levels of being human.
So starting with bio-mimicry in the last post and ending somewhere near the bedroom? Kiss me quick, walk on water with me and let’s talk to the moon discovering more past our current thought limitations about experience!
And to end with a laugh (hopefully), the partner that you need to communicate with first is always within yourself and then is shared outside. It is the same with any partner that is found outside, too! This is the only way to ever truly get close to sharing anything. The moon gets this. Dr. Ruth gets the next layers pretty much right, too -and turtles moving from the bar to the bedroom? Well, I agree with Oscar. It gives a good way to end talking about what could be perceived as a hard truth to swallow, with a chuckle.